The 10-Minute Yes Reset™ is a short, private exercise for successful women who are done deciding under pressure. Before you honour, delay, reduce or renegotiate anything, take ten minutes to find out what you actually want to say. No guilt. No over-explaining. No drama.
Send Me The 10-Minute Reset
You know the feeling before you've even hung up the phone.
Someone asks for something. You hear yourself say yes. And somewhere underneath the yes, a small, exhausted voice is already keeping score.
You're tired of being the strong one all the time. Tired of being useful, responsible, and not remotely sexy by the time you get home. You've done everything you were supposed to do, and you still don't feel fully like yourself.
You're not broken. You know something has to change, you just don't know what yet. You've spent years being reliable for everyone else, and somewhere in there you stopped checking what you actually wanted.
This isn't about saying no to everything. It's not about burning it all down, quitting the job, or disappearing to think. You don't want to blow up the life you built. You want to stop abandoning yourself inside it.
That starts with one yes. The next one.
The 10-Minute Yes Reset™ is a short written exercise. Here is exactly what happens when you open it:
They walk you from "what did I just agree to" through to "what do I actually want to do about it," using the same sequence Beverley uses with her own clients before any conversation about a commitment.
It sorts every yes into one of four honest categories: honour it, reduce it, delay it, or renegotiate it. No fifth category called "resent it silently," which is where most of these decisions currently live.
Without over-explaining, apologising, or building a legal case for yourself first.
The next time someone asks you for something, you run it through the four questions before you answer, instead of after you've already said yes and started resenting it. That's the whole shift. Not a new personality. A ten-minute pause you didn't have before.
Beverley Schäfer spent 13 years in South African government, including as Deputy Speaker of the Western Cape Provincial Parliament and Minister of Economic Development, Tourism and Agriculture. She loved the work. She said yes to more of it for years, past the point her body was asking her to stop.
In May 2024 she walked away, not because the job stopped mattering to her, but because she couldn't keep carrying it the way she had been.
"I didn't lose confidence. I lost trust in myself."
This is the reset she built for herself first.
One email with your Reset. Beverley sends it personally.
Your 10-Minute Yes Reset™ is on its way. It usually lands within a minute or two.
While you wait, here's the honest version of what's about to happen: you're going to open an email from an actual person, not a system. If something in the Reset lands, hit reply and tell Beverley. She reads every one herself.
Beverley
If this is the third time this month you've said yes and regretted it by dinner, here's what Beverley thinks is actually happening →